AskMen may get paid if you click a link in this article and buy a product or service. More so than almost any other aspect of human sexual interactions, the female orgasm is a mystery. Men want to know how to give them. Women want to know how to have them.

A Quick Anatomy Refresh
1. The Grind
Suddenly sliding away from that peak is disappointing, to say the least. That's doubly true for women, many of whom find it much harder to achieve orgasm during penetrative sex. In fact, according to a recent survey, only 65 percent of heterosexual women consistently reach the pinnacle of pleasure during sex. So what can you do to help her reach that peak? Help her relax, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph. Translation: if you make a woman feel so good that she completely forgets about everything else, then you're highly likely to give her an orgasm. Of course, every woman is different, so what one woman loves in bed another woman might loathe. That said, there are a few moves that do tend to work — so if your partner is having trouble getting to the finish line, try these tips from real women and sexual health experts. First things first: the vast majority of women require clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, period. In fact, a study of more than 1, women in revealed that only 18 percent of ladies can orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone.
Get Her Mind Into It – Leading Up To, and During Sex
How old were you when you first had an orgasm? Woman A: I didn't have an orgasm the first time I had sex though. My partner at the time helped me climax eventually through oral sex. He was a bit older than me and was not a virgin, but very gentle and made sure I was comfortable. Woman B: Plus, we tried new positions and I was just more experienced in general by then. Woman C:
Phil says it takes a woman 14 minutes to have an orgasm… well I feel bad for Dr. Well, one thing is for sure… unless you have delayed ejaculation, a woman generally does take longer to orgasm than men do. My experience with the female orgasm was not always good… in fact it was terrible — trauma-causing terrible. I had the love of my life leave me due to my inability to satisfy her in bed.